How to Dump Your Toxic Boyfriend (or Girlfriend) Like a Pro



Let's face it. Breakups are never fun. But there is a proper way to do it—and yes, there is such a thing as doing it wrong. If you're thinking about ending things with your significant other, here are some tips on how to do it like a pro.

1. First, take some time to assess your relationship and figure out why it's not working. Are there things that you're not happy about in the relationship? Are there red flags that you're ignoring? Be honest with yourself, and don't try to make excuses for your partner's bad behavior. Once you're sure that breaking up is the right decision, sit down with your partner and have a conversation.



2. Don't ghost them. The most important rule to follow is this one. Just because you're not interested in someone anymore doesn't mean you can stop talking to the person altogether. That's called ghosting, and it isn't very kind. If you're not interested in continuing the relationship, at least have the decency to tell the person why. They deserve that much. It's okay if they get upset but remain calm and respectful.

3. Do it in person. You might feel the need to do the deed over text or email, but that's not very considerate. The right way to break up with someone is in person so they can have a chance to ask questions and process what's happening. Trust me. It's worth dealing with an awkward conversation for five minutes instead of the fallout from a cold, clinical breakup message.

4. Be honest. This one might seem obvious, but it bears repeating: be honest about your reasons for breaking up with someone. Don't try to spare their feelings by making up excuses; be truthful and direct about why you don't want to be with them anymore. It might not make the conversation any easier, but they'll know where they stand.

No one ever said breaking up was going to be easy—but that doesn't mean there isn't a right way to do it. If you're thinking about dumping your boyfriend or girlfriend, make sure you do it in person and be honest about your reasons. And whatever you do, don't ghost them! That isn't nice.